Sunday, March 22, 2009

I may have picked a bad time to quit blogging...

My kid may be in pretty serious trouble. In all probability it's not going to be a question of if charges will be brought against him, but what charges will be brought against him. He made an error in judgement, a stupid mistake that may ruin his life at the tender age of 14. While he should have known better morally, he honestly had no idea that it might be illegal. I don't know if I would have, either.

He's not alone in this trouble, and I don't know how much of the blame will be placed on him. We won't know anything until the detectives get the case tomorrow and decide what to do. It could go any way and we could be very lucky, or he could be made an example out of. I've been led to believe that it could be very bad for him.

Expulsion from school may be the least of our problems as I won't be able to afford the school any more if I have to hire a lawyer. I've already consulted one.

I can't stop crying and I'm terrified. The worst part is not knowing what is going to happen, so my mind is free to explore all the worst case scenarios. Including the very real possibility that the FBI may have to get involved.

If you have a minute and the inclination, would you please say a prayer for him? He's a good kid, he's never been in any trouble, and I'm so scared for him...

26 comments:

Marty said...

Your son (and you) have my prayers.

Anonymous said...

Shoot, whatever happened sounds terrible - I'm not a praying man, but I hope he's not in too much trouble.

At only 14, he can't be held too accountable for his actions, whatever they might have been.

Dr Zibbs said...

You should try and get a good lawyer. And if you can, try to stay calm. I'm sure it will work itself out.

Aunt Becky said...

Sending all my prayers. Wish I knew a good lawyer to send you to.

Carolyn said...

Awww man, I have a 13 and a 15 year old. I can imagine too well how terrified you must be. Sending prayers and good thoughts. Please let us know what happens. Wish there was more I could do.

That Janie Girl said...

I'll be praying!!

Morgan the Muse said...

Hopefully he will not be made an example. Fourteen, who makes good decisions at that age? I pray that it will turn out alright.

Sass said...

Thinking of you, Fancy...

Keep us posted, if you need anything...

Big hugs to you.

Scope said...

I have no idea the fear and terror and heartache you must be suffering. I hope things turn out better thna you fear.

Fancy Schmancy said...

Thank you all so much. I don't know how queer this is going to sound, but I didn't know how much I needed all of you until I almost gave you up, and then this happened 5 hours later. I just can't quit you, man... I'd say you bring a tear to my eyes, but pretty much everything does this weekend. Let's just hope I'm overreacting!

kate said...

Oh crap. I'm so sorry!!

I'd say a prayer, but at this point, if there is a god, she/he's not talking to me. ;)

But I will send good thoughts your way. Know that you are loved and you are not alone. He will be alright.

LegalMist said...

Oh, Fancy, I'm so sorry. In Arizona, he'd be in juvenile court, which would be bad but not all that bad... Please do consult a good lawyer. And if you are so inclined, email me. I can't give you legal advice since I'm not licensed to practice law in your state, but I might be able to help you figure out what a realistic consequence might be...

Meanwhile, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Ron Centeno said...

Sorry to hear this news Nancy, Hope everything turns out ok. You and your son will be in my prayers.

"Be strong and take courage, for The One who lives within you will be strong in you today."

Cora said...

Oh Fancy, oh my gosh! Whatever is happening, I'm sooooo sorry! My thoughts are with you and your son. Seriously, if you need to talk and vent and cry, you know where to find me.

Anne's Friend said...

you are both def are in my prayers.

Unknown said...

Sorry to hear about the trouble. I'm thinking of you and the boy. (I have TWO 17 year olds and one that got into some trouble last year)

Ask lots of questions, listen and think.

And thanks for not quitting your blog. Where the heck would I lurk if you quit???

MJenks said...

I'm seriously thinking and praying for you all. Hopefully, the best possible result will come of this.

Anonymous said...

Fancy,

I hope everything works out for you and your son.

Good luck,

Patti

BeckEye said...

I hope everything will be okay! Keep us posted.

Paige said...

oh gracious.

If you want to email me, feel free--this is my field, you know

Candy's daily Dandy said...

Oh Fance, I will pray for you both.

Please keep us posted and stay strong. We are praying for you.

Sassy DaffyKassy said...

I know everything will be ok somehow, as long as you get good legal advice. It was a dumb mistake made by a kid with absolutely no previous trouble with authority at all, let alone the law. He's a good kid, a studious young man who follows rules and is a good example to his younger cousins. This was a youthful lapse of judgment, not a criminal act. He makes us all proud without exception.

JoJo said...

OMG I'm just now getting around to the blogosphere. I will send you an email.

Whiskeymarie said...

Oh hon- so sorry this is happening. I hope they don't choose to make an example of him- 14 is too young to realize the consequences of your actions.
I'll be thinking about you...

Kelly said...

I'm new here, came over from Dr Zibbs, sorry to hear that you and your son have this drama going on. Good luck. Fourteen is too young for these types of problems.

Gwen said...

Hey, I'm catching up and just saw this. I hope everything is okay.